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Time for Christmas

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I haven’t been all that festive on the blog this year but now it’s time to head home for the holidays and indulge in some serious Hygge (which, don’t be fooled, is essentially code for candles and blankets) and Christmas rituals. I’ve learnt this year that downtime really is just as important as on time and for many of us, the week surrounding December 25th is one of the only times we fully try and re-charge the batteries a bit. It might not be a detox for the body, but letting go and doing exactly as you please, even if that means living horizontally on tea and chocolate money for a week, is definitely a detox for the soul. We are so very guilty of jokily using the term ‘workaholic’ as a tongue-in-cheek positive affirmation, a badge of honour if you will for driving ourselves into the ground with some sense of warped pride. And just to be clear, there is a huge difference between working really hard for a period of time (no one likes a slacker) and being an actual workaholic which has a negative impact on your whole life and you as a person.  In our go-go-go, goals-orientated western world we far too often measure our own self-worth on work achievements, feeling guilty when we’re not working, guilty when we are and are sometimes too busy to eat, sleep or indeed, be merry. Essentially it’s a downward spiral from there because, as everyone knows, nothing good comes from feeling guilty, tired and generally shit about yourself. Once you go down that slippery slope, your self-esteem is entirely based on external factors and others opinions rather than inside yourself, and the age-old adage of ‘no one can make you happy but you’ really is worth remembering.

What I’ve realised over the last year or two is that being deemed a ‘success’ by others isn’t the route to happiness. Success means so much more than work and instagram likes and pay cheques. Leading a successful life is about learning, kindness, the people you surround yourself with and how you can make them feel, time away from laptops and phones (I’m rubbish at this), living for the now as much as we possibly can and doing what you love whilst not letting it define you. I’ve realised that when I (hopefully) look back in forty years time, it will be everything between the meetings, projects and work stuff that I’ll remember the most. I’ll remember the travel I got to do through my job of course and might show my grandchildren some of my blog pictures or press clippings (which they will no doubt cringe at), but I reckon if you spoke to any 80 year old this Christmas and ask what their most cherished memories are, it would be something simple, something to do with family or a person they love and nothing at all to do with late nights in the office. Obviously there are bills to pay and I still have dozens and dozens of things I want to achieve professionally to keep me going for the next few decades (plus, I’ll admit I do have a little bit of a weakness for nice hotels, bags and good sheets), but I think it’s beyond important to pull your head out from the self-imposed black hole occasionally and see what’s right in front of you before it’s gone for good. I have another post coming soon that goes into way more of this but this is just what’s sitting at the forefront of my mind right now as Christmas fast approaches and we head into 2017.

This time of year means being grateful for what we have and those people that bring us all the good feelings, giving gifts both in words and deeds and kicking back for some much-needed self-care too. Not only is downtime a must all year round for our health and the maintenance of real, deserving relationships outside of work, but for me it’s also a must for staying inspired and in the right head space for enjoying what I do. Even, and maybe especially, if you work in a creative field, the need to stay creative in your free time is a must. Exhibitions, old movies you’ve always meant to watch, cooking something inventive, magazines you’ve never bought before or just walking around a different area of London all actually help to make us work better the rest of the time. Although, just as important is going to the pub with friends or laughing till you cry over stupid stuff that you won’t remember the next day. It’s when I let this slip thanks to believing the myth of having ‘no time’ that I start doubting what I’m doing and what I have to offer. Learning to truly relax is innate to some, and for others, a muscle that needs to be routinely exercised to know how to work. Lazing around with magazines and a shrine of candles is the ultimate way for me to reconnect with what I love and who I am. Case in point, Larsson & Jennings’ latest issue of its new magazine Twenty Six. The theme of this issue is the night sky which, needless to say, I’m kind of obsessed with being a star-gazer, moon charter and wonderer of ‘what’s actually up there’. They also made a beautiful film to mirror the magazine’s interest in the constellations which I loved. On top of the magazine flipping, here’s what’s on my anti to-do list this Christmas…

Watch It’s A Wonderful Life and cry
Watch Love Actually and cry
Watch Home Alone while wrapping presents to feel better after watching the previous two
Try and fail to be allowed to cook in mum’s kitchen
Eat Lindt Christmas decorations off the tree around the clock
Smoked salmon and scrambled egg on Christmas morning
Bath in copious amounts of salts and oils on a daily basis. Candles mandatory
Spoon my dogs morning, noon and night. Give zero f*cks about dog hair on just about everything I own
Buttery carbs at every meal
Daily crossword completion with my dad
Leave my phone in my room
Get round to starting some of the many books I’ve been hoarding off Amazon
Sleep in past 9 (I can’t actually remember the last time I did this)

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Tee | Redone
Jeans | Redone
Cardigan | Filippa K
Watch | Larsson & Jennings
Cashmere socks | Jac & Jack
Necklace | Lucy Williams X Missoma
Bracelets | Lucy Williams X Missoma
R
ose gold bracelet | Auree Jewellery 

 

Ph. by Frances Davison 
Created in collaboration with Larson & Jennings 

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